Archive | March 2011

An Evening With My Home Girl

Yesterday, my long time friend of 40 years visited me along with her fiance.  I cooked a nice meal and the fellows watched movies while we updated her resume and went over some computer tips. What a wonderful evening. We got the resume all updated and done. We surfed for cruise ship career opportunities. We drank a whole bottle of Chardonnay. Laughed until our stomachs started to hurt. Acted silly at times. Brainstormed on some business ideals. Mapped out some business plans. Hugged each other in appreciation. What a wonderful evening. Having a friend since grade school is truly a blessing. So many people have come and gone in my life, but to know that I have that one person in my life that if I say to her we are going to the moon tonight, her response would be, ” what time and what are you going to wear?” I truly Love and respect her and am grateful that we chose each other to travel with in life.

In fact, I am grateful to have several long time relationships with people that I grew up with or met on previous jobs. Some of which we talk frequently and others every now and then just to make sure the other is ok.

Do you have a friend like that?



Reacting vs Responding

Coaching calls this month has been on Reacting vs Responding.
This has really brought my awareness level up around this subject. Reacting is uncontrolled, stressful, and does not provide solutions. Responding has a thought process. Responding provides solutions.
I am guilty of reacting, especially within my family. When my son get’s a bad grade, I blow up. What I’ve learned from this coaching is that behavior makes me angry, my son angry, and nothing is resolved.

I have changed my approach and now my son and I are actually talking about steps to improve his grades.It is a two-way conversation, instead of me dictating what I want him to do.  I honor him when he makes the small steps that will help him to achieve his goals in getting better grades.  I am learning to embrace his individuality and encouraging him to find what works for him in achieving his goals.

I’m feeling better and so is he.


Friendship Homes For You

I am excited about the event we will be hosting soon.

Free Seminar at the Newark Senior Center 
200 White Chapel Drive
Newark, DE  19713
Wednesday, April 20, 2011 from 6:00 PM to 10:00 PM
Learn how we are helping people to maximize their income through shared home living.
Friendship Homes For You will be accepting applications for shared home living 

and answering any questions you may have about the services we provide.

Please RSVP at or call

717-406-3883 to let us know you will be attending.

Thank you 

If you or someone you know is in need of affordable housing, please share.
 Visit to learn about our program.

The PeaceMaking Church

On Tuesday evening, March 11, I attended the first of a 7 week small group presented by my church and the topic was The Peace Making Church written by . The focus of this class was the 4 G’s: God-centered response to conflict. When conflict comes into our lives:

Glorify God (1 Cor. 10:31)- Think about what would be pleasing and honorable to God before your speak

Get the log out of your eye (Matt 7:5) Taking responsibility for your part of the conflict with Jesus’ work in your mind.

Gently restore (Gal. 6:1 – Help others to take responsibility of their contribution of the conflict  in a loving way.

Go and be reconciled (Matt 5:24) – Work out a reasonable solution demonstrating God’s forgiveness.

The hostess of this study group was the most bravest woman I have ever met. She revealed things about her life that I don’t know if I would have told anyone about. Her ability to share was a very courageous act and showed that God had truly helped her to move her life into purpose. She was a true testimony of the power of faith.

Direct Sales Success Refresh

It’s a week later and I am still feeling this event. On March 4, 5, and 6th, I attended a virtual educational event put together by my Compass sister, British Hill, who is a fabulous person. This was one of the best events that I have attended in some time. Especially because it was all done in my pajamas.

On the 4th was the Mixer. We got to meet many of the ladies attending the event. We were placed in breakouts throughout the evening so that we could get to know everyone. There were women from all around the country. What a party.
 Day 1- 12:00 to 4:30 PM
Shannon Bruce integrates her professional coach training from The Coaches Training Institute to guide the rediscovery of what’s on the inside, providing clarity and purpose that leads to intentional action with results. Blending this heart-centered coaching approach with practical tools, women integrate their values and identity to build meaningful lives and purposeful careers. “Be BIG, Be Bold, Be YOU! Build your business from the CORE. Wonderful speaker who taught us how to tap into our hearts and know what makes us, as individuals, unique. Don’t let the external elements around you control, but let the internal you move you through your business.

Kim Fulcher is the Founder and CEO of, a network marketing company offering affordable professional coaching. She is a successful entrepreneur, executive, author, speaker, and accomplished professional coach., my Compass CEO and one of my favorite people, energized us with How to Use the Power of Focus to Build your Dream Direct Sales Business.

Uncover the 5 Habits of Focus that will ensure your direct sales success. Integrate each of those habits into your daily routine and create an unstoppable success plan. We learned:

  • Manage your state
  • Harness the power of questions
  • Take control of your self talk
  • Become the master of your schedule
  • Make and keep committments

I love it when she says, “What’s not good enough in your life? What would you like instead? Motivating, motivating and more motivating. I LOVE MY COMPASS LIFE!

Pasha Carter,an internationally sought after speaker, author and Network Marketing Expert who got started in business at the age of 23. She has been featured in SUCCESS and NETWORKING TIMES magazines.; “Power Prospecting-How To Attract, Recruit and Close 90% of the People You Meet” How to attract, work with, and motivate different personalities (including yourself) and what will move them to action! Priceless information.

Caterina Rando, MA, MCC, shows direct sellers how to build thriving businesses. She is a direct sales coach, sought after speaker, author of the national best seller, Learn to Power Think and co-author of Direct Selling Power. Caterina is also a contributing author to Build it Big and More Build it Big. “
Success Stamina-How to Stay in Action and Thrive Day After Day” A few of the topics discussed:

  • Create a compelling vision for your life that will keep you positively future-focused rather than problem-focused
  • Cultivate an expect-success attitude that will add momentum day after day
  • Identify your centers of power and challenge areas and discover which one on which to shine the spotlight for the greatest positive impact now

Day 2  – 12:00 – 6:00 PM

“Unshakable Belief: How to Become a People Magnet and Inspire Others to Act” delivered by Suzan Hart, a Master trainer, speaker and coach, Suzan is also a successful entrepreneur. As a multiple six figure earner in the industry of network marketing, she has built a reputation as a dynamic and captivating industry trainer. Suzan is sought out as a speaker all over North America to inspire and empower individuals looking to take charge of their life and embrace success. We learned

  • How to become a people magnet.
  • How to inspire others to act.
  • How to communicate unshakable belief.

Deb Bixler retired from the corporate world in 2000 to enjoy life as an entrepreneur. In the first 9 months as a home party direct seller she built a home business and sales team which provided her with an income capable of replacing her corporate business salary of $80,000 per year. Deb has been honored 2 years in a row in the Direct Selling Power 50 as one of the most influential professionals in the industry worldwide. “Becoming A Recruiter With Unlimited Leads” gave tactics to implement to get an unlimited supply of free leads; how to balance your marketing approach and so much more.

Jennifer Fong is a social media speaker and consultant who teaches direct selling companies and independent business owners how to use social media effectively as a business building tool.
“How to generate traffic, buzz and leads online without spending a fortune – using Social Media to build your business”  Jennifer covered:

  • What to decide BEFORE you log on
  • Social media time management
  • Tapping into your warm market: how do you reach them online?
  • Offline techniques to build an online following
  • The care and feeding of your online community
  • The best ways to stay in contact once you’ve connected online

Mary McLoughlin began her career as a distributor in the direct selling industry over twenty years ago. Her personal direct sales organization generated over $2 million in annual sales and included forty downline teams. In her role as a company leader, Mary has been a featured speaker and trainer at national conferences and events.

“Taking it to the Top WITH a life! Mastering Time with Joy” focused on:

  • The answer to the endless task list
  • Balancing the family calendar
  • How to build a routine around your priorities
  • Discover your unique work style
  • Planning in five minutes a day

Nicki Keohohou began her career as a distributor in the direct selling profession more than 30 years ago after leaving her teaching position. She built successful personal organizations, has spoken to direct sellers at conventions around the world, consulted to hundreds of companies, and held executive positions in direct selling companies. Nicki is the CEO of the Direct Selling Women’s Alliance and her life work is to educate and empower home-based entrepreneurs from around the globe and inform the public about this amazing profession.
“Go from Believing to Leading: How to lead yourself and create leaders that will lead” gave us praticals and tacticals to

  • How to increase belief in yourself and have more confidence
  • The value of self coaching
  • The five most important skills for successful leaders

I know this was a long blog. It was 3 days of education. This was one of the warmest and loving events I have ever attended. There were tears, laughter, and plenty of AH Ha! moments. I know British will be doing this again next year. I will surely keep you posted.

Associated Women Board Meeting

Today at work, professional staff was invited to the Associated Women Board Meeting. The guest speaker was Dr. Erica Brown who is writer and educator who works as the scholar-in-residence for the Jewish Federaton of Greater Washington, as well as consults for the Jewish Agency and other Jewish non-profits.

Dr. Brown talked about Women in Leadership. Her focus was on the women in Judges 4 where God gave Deborah leadership to go into Mount Tabor to kill Sisera, but Jael ended up killing him.

Dr. Brown also stated when we uplift someone else, we are also uplifted.

She left us with:

Say something nice to 10 people and observe how that makes you feel.

I love my Compass life more and more everyday.